Your mind or body won’t settle
Maybe you’re on alert even when nothing is happening. You may understand why you react the way you do and still not know how to stop it once it starts.
Individual therapy
You know something needs to change. You’re just not sure what yet.
Sometimes the relationship is what finally gets you to call. Other times you just know you’re not doing well, and the explanation isn’t neat: anxiety, trauma, faith, identity, family, or a part of your life that no longer fits. We can start with what you can name.
When the relationship is what brings you in
You can come on your own, even when the relationship is the reason.
Maybe your partner isn’t ready for therapy. Maybe you need to understand what you want before asking anything of the relationship. Or trust has been broken and most of the impact is landing on you.
We’ll look at the conflict, loneliness, betrayal, boundaries, and the decisions in front of you. I’m not going to tell you to stay or leave. I’ll help you see more clearly what is happening, what it is costing you, and what you need now.
Individual therapy after betrayalBeyond relationship concerns
There may be more you want to work on than the relationship.
I don’t do “a little bit of everything” therapy. But individual work rarely stays in one tidy category. A relationship may bring you in, and then we find trauma, anxiety, religious harm, identity, or family underneath it. You don’t have to sort that out before scheduling.
You want room to talk honestly about faith
Faith may still matter deeply to you. It may also be tangled up with fear, control, exclusion, or questions you were never allowed to ask. We can talk about either—or both—without me deciding where your faith should end up.
Faith and religious traumaYou want somewhere you don’t have to edit yourself
You don’t have to defend or explain your sexuality or gender here. We can talk about identity, relationships, belonging, and the parts of yourself you may have learned to keep out of view.
Family and cultural expectations are hard to separate from what you want
I won’t assume I already understand what family, community, duty, or belonging mean to you. I’ll ask, and I’ll listen before I draw conclusions.
How I work
I want the insight to be useful outside the therapy room.
Insight matters. I just don’t want us to spend months explaining the pattern and never change anything.
I pay attention to what happens in your relationships, what your body does under stress, and what you learned to do to stay safe or connected. That’s what I mean by trauma-informed: before we try to change a reaction, I want to understand what job it has been doing for you.
At times I also borrow ideas from Internal Family Systems, usually shortened to IFS. That may sound technical. Mostly, it means we get curious about the different parts of you—the part that keeps the peace, braces for rejection, shuts down, or takes over when something feels threatening. I use that as one way of understanding your experience. I’m not formally trained or certified in IFS, so I don’t describe my work as IFS therapy.
Starting individual therapy
You don’t need the whole story organized before you contact me.
Start with the part you can name. We can sort out the rest together.